To all the ladies out there that come by my blog, this one's for you
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you,nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you trulyhappy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't 'be friends.' A friend wouldn'tmistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faithmake you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think 'it will get better.' You'llbe mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in awhole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the 'I'm confused role' . Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse.If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your life long task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...notsupplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's 'therapist'.
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it - but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the 'I'm not the loving type'...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure =him to spend time with you, You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. You can't make a %#&@$! into a housewife - or husband.
73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs,personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.
there u have it.. 75 point of food for thought
..oh and some highlighted bits for importance !
peace.
C
Saturday, 30 August 2008
Thursday, 28 August 2008
TO ALL OF YOU SH*TC*NTS WHO BACKSTAB
why the fuck can u put so much time and EFFORT into a fucken relationship and get SHIT ALL IN RETURN.. oh wait thats a masssiveeeee azz LIE WHY do people get screwed over after doing so much???
do none of u understand???
.... do none of u really give a shit about the worth of a mother fucking "FRIEND" these days!
to all u ass holes out there who claim to be friends WITH ME OR WHOEVER ELSE IT IS ! why the fuck would u claim all this shit and title only to turn around back backstab the hell out of everyone!
MOTHER FOCKING PEOPLE JUST DONT GET IT DO THEY????
here i have been growing up the last 20 years growing up to be the most humble most respectable most wateva the fuck else so i could be good to those around me.. WHAT THE FREAK HAS THAT EVER DONE FOR ME??
From wen i was born to the way i am now, i have had people backstab me for sooo many fucking reasons it just beats the crap outta me as to WHY I EVEN BOTHER LOOKING FOR THOSE SELECT FEW PEOPLE AROUND ME TO BE THE PEOPLE THEY ARE TO ME!!.. all you people who are apart of my past .. YOU ARE ALL FULL OF SO MUCH SHIT U FCUKEN BASTARDS! its not that i hate you, YOU ALL ARE FULL OF SHIT ! wateva the fuck did i ever do to any of u HUH?? SERSLY IF IM THAT NAIVE TO EVERYTHING TALK TO MY FACE AND TELL ME EXACTLY HOW IT IS U FUCKHEADS
im so sick and tired of all the shit happening again, closing up to what i was originally before seems like the proper path. RELY ON NO ONE BUT YOURSELF still stands strong within me, wait actually ITS THE ONLY THING THAT WILL STAND WITHIN me. FUCK FAMILY RELOZ, EVEN THOSE CUNTS BACKSTAB, LIE THEIR WAY THROUGH HELL TO GET THE SHIT THEY WANT
FUCK!
to BE APPRECIATED IS ALL THAT EVERYONE SHOULD EVER be asked for! NO expectations, NO games, NO fights, NO NAME CALLING, NO Low Calls! NO FUCKED UP MSGS OR REMINISCING OF THE PAST WHEN THE SITUATION DOESNT NEED IT.. U FUCKED BASTARDS WHY DO CONSTANTLY DO IT??
i have been disappointed so many fucking times so far, i duno why i even bother! PERSEVERANCE?? THATS FUCKING ME UP RIGHT NOW
IM ONLY LOOKING FOR THOSE THAT CAN APPRECIATE, IVE COME ACROSS A FEW LATELY AND THEY ARE GODLIKE TO ME
AS FOR THE REST, TO THE PAST AND INTO THE PAST YOU WILL STAY U MOFOS, CHANCES? WATEVA THE FUCK IS THAT NO ONE DESERVES A SECOND CHANCE IF THEY HAVE FUCKED U OVER .. fucked that TRUST YOU ONCE HAD
who the hell do i trust, this blog is the only place i feel 110% comfortable, people have their issues they dont need mine but im there to listen to them? HOW FUCKED IS THAT???? EVEN WEN IT COMES TO LISTENING ID RATHER HEAR THEM THEN TALK ABOUT EM??? WHERE THE JUSTICE IN THAT HUH? mofos dont know how to keep a GOOD MAN SANE!
wat to do wat to do huh I KNOW!!!!!! im gona hold back on giving ANY BREATHING THING THE POWER TO SHIT STIR ME THE WAY I AM RIGHT NOW
SO THE MUTHERFUCKING EX JUST THREATENED ME WITH A TEXT AMONGST THE GAZZILLION SHE HAD ALREADY????
THE FUCKING RETARD- "CAREFUL WIT HOW U TREAT ME COZ WEN MY BOYS READ UR MSGS THEY WILL LITERALLY GO TO UR HOUSE"
ME - "FUCK OFF"
THE FUCKING RETARD - "Lol you asked for it"
so now my question is
WHO WILL BACK ME IF SHIT DOES GO DOWN? haha U KNOW WAT I RECKON NO ONE FUCKING GIVES A RATS ASS coz all u shit cunts ONLY EVA COME TO ME WEN U WANT SHIT... THATS RIGHT WEN U ONLY WANT SHIT. u CALL ME A FRIEND? I CALL U A FUCKING USER !
NO ON WILL COME TO AID ME IF SHIT GOES DOWN
i really dont know who my real friends are
.... thats the most cutting thing ive come to realise in this blog
ouch...
C
do none of u understand???
.... do none of u really give a shit about the worth of a mother fucking "FRIEND" these days!
to all u ass holes out there who claim to be friends WITH ME OR WHOEVER ELSE IT IS ! why the fuck would u claim all this shit and title only to turn around back backstab the hell out of everyone!
MOTHER FOCKING PEOPLE JUST DONT GET IT DO THEY????
here i have been growing up the last 20 years growing up to be the most humble most respectable most wateva the fuck else so i could be good to those around me.. WHAT THE FREAK HAS THAT EVER DONE FOR ME??
From wen i was born to the way i am now, i have had people backstab me for sooo many fucking reasons it just beats the crap outta me as to WHY I EVEN BOTHER LOOKING FOR THOSE SELECT FEW PEOPLE AROUND ME TO BE THE PEOPLE THEY ARE TO ME!!.. all you people who are apart of my past .. YOU ARE ALL FULL OF SO MUCH SHIT U FCUKEN BASTARDS! its not that i hate you, YOU ALL ARE FULL OF SHIT ! wateva the fuck did i ever do to any of u HUH?? SERSLY IF IM THAT NAIVE TO EVERYTHING TALK TO MY FACE AND TELL ME EXACTLY HOW IT IS U FUCKHEADS
im so sick and tired of all the shit happening again, closing up to what i was originally before seems like the proper path. RELY ON NO ONE BUT YOURSELF still stands strong within me, wait actually ITS THE ONLY THING THAT WILL STAND WITHIN me. FUCK FAMILY RELOZ, EVEN THOSE CUNTS BACKSTAB, LIE THEIR WAY THROUGH HELL TO GET THE SHIT THEY WANT
FUCK!
to BE APPRECIATED IS ALL THAT EVERYONE SHOULD EVER be asked for! NO expectations, NO games, NO fights, NO NAME CALLING, NO Low Calls! NO FUCKED UP MSGS OR REMINISCING OF THE PAST WHEN THE SITUATION DOESNT NEED IT.. U FUCKED BASTARDS WHY DO CONSTANTLY DO IT??
i have been disappointed so many fucking times so far, i duno why i even bother! PERSEVERANCE?? THATS FUCKING ME UP RIGHT NOW
IM ONLY LOOKING FOR THOSE THAT CAN APPRECIATE, IVE COME ACROSS A FEW LATELY AND THEY ARE GODLIKE TO ME
AS FOR THE REST, TO THE PAST AND INTO THE PAST YOU WILL STAY U MOFOS, CHANCES? WATEVA THE FUCK IS THAT NO ONE DESERVES A SECOND CHANCE IF THEY HAVE FUCKED U OVER .. fucked that TRUST YOU ONCE HAD
who the hell do i trust, this blog is the only place i feel 110% comfortable, people have their issues they dont need mine but im there to listen to them? HOW FUCKED IS THAT???? EVEN WEN IT COMES TO LISTENING ID RATHER HEAR THEM THEN TALK ABOUT EM??? WHERE THE JUSTICE IN THAT HUH? mofos dont know how to keep a GOOD MAN SANE!
wat to do wat to do huh I KNOW!!!!!! im gona hold back on giving ANY BREATHING THING THE POWER TO SHIT STIR ME THE WAY I AM RIGHT NOW
SO THE MUTHERFUCKING EX JUST THREATENED ME WITH A TEXT AMONGST THE GAZZILLION SHE HAD ALREADY????
THE FUCKING RETARD- "CAREFUL WIT HOW U TREAT ME COZ WEN MY BOYS READ UR MSGS THEY WILL LITERALLY GO TO UR HOUSE"
ME - "FUCK OFF"
THE FUCKING RETARD - "Lol you asked for it"
so now my question is
WHO WILL BACK ME IF SHIT DOES GO DOWN? haha U KNOW WAT I RECKON NO ONE FUCKING GIVES A RATS ASS coz all u shit cunts ONLY EVA COME TO ME WEN U WANT SHIT... THATS RIGHT WEN U ONLY WANT SHIT. u CALL ME A FRIEND? I CALL U A FUCKING USER !
NO ON WILL COME TO AID ME IF SHIT GOES DOWN
i really dont know who my real friends are
.... thats the most cutting thing ive come to realise in this blog
ouch...
C
Friday, 1 August 2008
Make It Work Vs Crying Out For Me...
hmm.. its currently 1.54 inda morning... ive had better nights to be honest...
tnite was real disappointing... and not in the cliche sense everyone might think
Feelin of weakness
majorly disappointed in self with letting that barrier be brought down.. and have nothing come of it
just need this point in time to vent out all of the frustration and lack of self trust/dependency before the sun rises this mornin... after all no matter how awesome or great a person may be... they are at the end of the day just a person... like me... and just like a normal, people like that look forward to a new and hopefully more promising day. None of this crap will have its place wen i wake up in a few hours... fresh for a what would seem a hectic lifestyle for some... and shiet... my groin muscles hurt like hell.. something i should focus on recovering perhaps.. yep thatd get my mind off things
heres a scenario for olla you people that come across this blog of mine
ah fuck it. It actually involves someone close to me and i doubt they'd want me to have it up on this blog for the world to see... but i know how all those of you non-involved love controversy and danger so ill proceed to beat around the bush and give you some extra food for thought
for olla (by olla i mean "all of" think about it... it works) you ladies out there.. how many of you have had the shittiest experiences when it comes to guys ? and think about it in general.
> ever come across boys that lead you on only to leave you unexpectedly without any "real" reasons to bitter-sweetly-comfort your mind ?
> any of those boys ever just use and abuse your mind and body.. and on some occasions your soul ... because they could ?
> come across any that constantly just fuck around with your head because of their own insecurities and all that shit?
> ever been deeply cut up inside because they say things .. mean thinGs.. just to make you believe you are not worth anything more than what you already have ?
> ever been involved with a man that turned out to be a boy?
> sometimes coming across those most closest to you who don't exactly reciprocate your efforts and determination to make it work?..
i kinda lost the reason i started writing all of that just then so just try to make sense of it and relate it to whateva... hopefully... none of you girls relate to any of this ive said so far
for the sake of some structure and attempt to map out exactly whats doing my head in, im going to take a now tainted song i wanted to dance to for my 21st birthday and explain where i can - my opinion in relation to a girl that has a boyfriend whos there with Him for reasons that only our god knows.... the song again for all of you.. oh and btw read the lyrics and think about it before you read on because ill be relating all of my crap to the verse or chorus right above it.
Breaking up with someone to be with another person. sounds wrong hey?.... shoving a knife into a toaster to take a piece of toasted bread out is the same thing. my point if u havent gotten it already is that every situation that may appear to be a common happenin at front on value is almost always different once u get down to the nitty gritty details of motives and external influences. People break up and hookup with another for essentially the same reasons but the thought process, influences, values and beliefs almost always differ amongst people... never judge a book by its cover, if u have problems talk or ask it directly to them.... anyway... what happens when someone is in a relationship theyve dedicated themselves to... wateva the reasonS... but they fall for someone they know they could have something so much greater with... BUT they already have something thats been established over a period of time with the person they currently have... should they risk to pursue that potential for greatness they can see? or should they stick to making work what they already have? think about it like this, you buy urself a cheap new guitar, and u self teach uRself how to play it, from basics all the way to advanced you establish some sort of connection with it, in this guitar case it may of a nostalgic and sentimental one. One day you get given the choice to trade that very guitar into a shop in exchange for another one that looks better, is of great quality.... but u have no history with this... unlike ur old guitar... the new one you just recieved you have no history with, you have to start all over again from the very begin to establish that connection..... thas has a potential to be greater then ur previous just because you can do so much more with....taking into account whats more important to u is the connection u have with the guitar, do you exchange it or not ? something thatll help me explain this is by our friend mario with his song crying out for me. just like with make it work ill try and explain whats still going thru my mind with the aid of this awesome song but catch 22 song.
tnite was real disappointing... and not in the cliche sense everyone might think
Feelin of weakness
majorly disappointed in self with letting that barrier be brought down.. and have nothing come of it
just need this point in time to vent out all of the frustration and lack of self trust/dependency before the sun rises this mornin... after all no matter how awesome or great a person may be... they are at the end of the day just a person... like me... and just like a normal, people like that look forward to a new and hopefully more promising day. None of this crap will have its place wen i wake up in a few hours... fresh for a what would seem a hectic lifestyle for some... and shiet... my groin muscles hurt like hell.. something i should focus on recovering perhaps.. yep thatd get my mind off things
heres a scenario for olla you people that come across this blog of mine
ah fuck it. It actually involves someone close to me and i doubt they'd want me to have it up on this blog for the world to see... but i know how all those of you non-involved love controversy and danger so ill proceed to beat around the bush and give you some extra food for thought
for olla (by olla i mean "all of" think about it... it works) you ladies out there.. how many of you have had the shittiest experiences when it comes to guys ? and think about it in general.
> ever come across boys that lead you on only to leave you unexpectedly without any "real" reasons to bitter-sweetly-comfort your mind ?
> any of those boys ever just use and abuse your mind and body.. and on some occasions your soul ... because they could ?
> come across any that constantly just fuck around with your head because of their own insecurities and all that shit?
> ever been deeply cut up inside because they say things .. mean thinGs.. just to make you believe you are not worth anything more than what you already have ?
> ever been involved with a man that turned out to be a boy?
> sometimes coming across those most closest to you who don't exactly reciprocate your efforts and determination to make it work?..
i kinda lost the reason i started writing all of that just then so just try to make sense of it and relate it to whateva... hopefully... none of you girls relate to any of this ive said so far
for the sake of some structure and attempt to map out exactly whats doing my head in, im going to take a now tainted song i wanted to dance to for my 21st birthday and explain where i can - my opinion in relation to a girl that has a boyfriend whos there with Him for reasons that only our god knows.... the song again for all of you.. oh and btw read the lyrics and think about it before you read on because ill be relating all of my crap to the verse or chorus right above it.
Neyo - Make It Work
"You Understand Me
At Least You Say You Do
Lately Thats Enough For Me
Looking For Perfect
Surrounded By Artificial
Your The Closest Thing To Real I've Seen"
How many of you girls fall prey to a fella that knows how to say the right things? i sure as hell havent...haha (just laugh itll make me feel better)... worse yet, how many of you girls fall prey to a guy that doesnt say anything and keeps you pondering about your very relationship... your very foundation... damn man.. thats so shit, to have established something and believe you've built something over time only to be confused as to whether you really want or believe you want at the end of it all?... take note of that. theres a massive difference between the too... never ever settle for "thats enough for me" becoz there are others out there thatll completely eliminate those type of thoughts. and im not talking about just someone who eliminate those during ur honeymoon period, i mean eliminate that sort of thinking for real, enough for me goes to show you're scared of losing something even if that something never really made you truly happy in the first place. think about it. same old shit goes for thinking "you're the closest thing to real ive seen" ... when you start to "think" whether its the closest thing to real you've seen then hell yeah it aint real! real is the feeling you have for someone that you just simply connect from the get go until the end of your lives !... real simply isnt forcing urself to fall for someone or to stick to someone for whaT god only knows the reasons for !... fuck... im only one verse into this... aiya...
Im Sure Everyone Has Their Problems
Thats A Given
Yours Are The Easiest To Tolerate
This Wasnt What We Was Wanting
How We're Living
Lets Take This Good Enough And Turn It To Great
Baby Understand...
baby you gota understand... that you have to understand.
All relationships have their odd bumps throughout. Though when you start experiencing rollercoaster moments you have to take a step back, look at it, re analyse and think whether thats what you really want for urself... its fucked, its life.... Tolerating what life has to offer to survive and be happy is a toughie and needs to be experienced, but its the rash and detrimental choices you make during those moments that require toleration that'll determine if ull be happy with the way you have lived your life. partners are exactly that, partners. theyre the ones that will accompany you through this journey through life, assisting you with learning life lessons and complimenting you being a person. If you have to tolerate this person then thats fucked, think about it... why when you think about ur partner do you have to tolerate them? why not think... he/she and i are going to work out definitely what our issues are because i can see us together til the end?.. if you dont get me then just read this again and again until you do coz i cant be bothered explaining it, i have a whole song or two to write about. hmm last thought for this verse... lets take this good and turn it into great?. heres a piece of advice i will dispense For you people. When you see a potential for greatness with a person who you could see yourself with, latch onto it with mind body and soul, theyll look after you... you can make it work... even if you have a boyfriend at the current situation
This Can Only Be As Good As We Both Make It
Guess Sometimes Its Gonna Hurt
We Can Be As Happy As We Want To Be Girl
But We Gotta Make It Work
We Gotta Make It Work...
Ay Oh Ay Oh Oh
We Gotta Make It Work...
Ay Oh Ay Oh Oh
We Gotta Make It Work...
Ay Oh Ay Oh Oh
We Gotta Make It Work...
Ay Oh Ay Oh Oh
Sometimes I Love You
More Than You'll Ever Know
Other Times You Get On My Nerves
That's Just Reality
No, It Can't Always Be
Kisses, Hugs, And Beautiful Words
You Was Looking For Your Friends
What You Found
Is A Partner With Potential
And No, I Know I Ain't Perfect
But I'm Around
Girl Time And Patience Is Essential
Baby Realize...
Thick And Thin,
The Bad Outweighs The Good Sometimes
That Doesn't Mean We're 'spose To Give It Up
My Problems Are Yours,And Yours Are Mine
(...OK LADIES AND GENTS TAKE A 5 MIN BREATHER, THIS POST STILL HAS AWHILE TO GO ...)
At Least You Say You Do
Lately Thats Enough For Me
Looking For Perfect
Surrounded By Artificial
Your The Closest Thing To Real I've Seen"
How many of you girls fall prey to a fella that knows how to say the right things? i sure as hell havent...haha (just laugh itll make me feel better)... worse yet, how many of you girls fall prey to a guy that doesnt say anything and keeps you pondering about your very relationship... your very foundation... damn man.. thats so shit, to have established something and believe you've built something over time only to be confused as to whether you really want or believe you want at the end of it all?... take note of that. theres a massive difference between the too... never ever settle for "thats enough for me" becoz there are others out there thatll completely eliminate those type of thoughts. and im not talking about just someone who eliminate those during ur honeymoon period, i mean eliminate that sort of thinking for real, enough for me goes to show you're scared of losing something even if that something never really made you truly happy in the first place. think about it. same old shit goes for thinking "you're the closest thing to real ive seen" ... when you start to "think" whether its the closest thing to real you've seen then hell yeah it aint real! real is the feeling you have for someone that you just simply connect from the get go until the end of your lives !... real simply isnt forcing urself to fall for someone or to stick to someone for whaT god only knows the reasons for !... fuck... im only one verse into this... aiya...
Im Sure Everyone Has Their Problems
Thats A Given
Yours Are The Easiest To Tolerate
This Wasnt What We Was Wanting
How We're Living
Lets Take This Good Enough And Turn It To Great
Baby Understand...
baby you gota understand... that you have to understand.
All relationships have their odd bumps throughout. Though when you start experiencing rollercoaster moments you have to take a step back, look at it, re analyse and think whether thats what you really want for urself... its fucked, its life.... Tolerating what life has to offer to survive and be happy is a toughie and needs to be experienced, but its the rash and detrimental choices you make during those moments that require toleration that'll determine if ull be happy with the way you have lived your life. partners are exactly that, partners. theyre the ones that will accompany you through this journey through life, assisting you with learning life lessons and complimenting you being a person. If you have to tolerate this person then thats fucked, think about it... why when you think about ur partner do you have to tolerate them? why not think... he/she and i are going to work out definitely what our issues are because i can see us together til the end?.. if you dont get me then just read this again and again until you do coz i cant be bothered explaining it, i have a whole song or two to write about. hmm last thought for this verse... lets take this good and turn it into great?. heres a piece of advice i will dispense For you people. When you see a potential for greatness with a person who you could see yourself with, latch onto it with mind body and soul, theyll look after you... you can make it work... even if you have a boyfriend at the current situation
This Can Only Be As Good As We Both Make It
Guess Sometimes Its Gonna Hurt
We Can Be As Happy As We Want To Be Girl
But We Gotta Make It Work
We Gotta Make It Work...
Ay Oh Ay Oh Oh
We Gotta Make It Work...
Ay Oh Ay Oh Oh
We Gotta Make It Work...
Ay Oh Ay Oh Oh
We Gotta Make It Work...
Ay Oh Ay Oh Oh
we gotta make it work... WE gotta make it work.. our boi neyo words that perfectly or sings it ... there is no 'i' in team.. neither does 'i' exist in making relationships work, coz once u start doing all the work and the other gets complacent you have to put it to them, you have to confront them. Couples are permitted to be happy only as much as the combined effort of both equal, and when these two people connect on levels they usually dont with many others than that potential for happiness grows exponentially... and alOt of the time, to reach this achievable ideal
.... itll take some hurt
.... itll take some hurt
Sometimes I Love You
More Than You'll Ever Know
Other Times You Get On My Nerves
That's Just Reality
No, It Can't Always Be
Kisses, Hugs, And Beautiful Words
its all good and sweet when you know and believe you love the other person, yes sometimes they get on your nerves with the little trivial things... its reality and yes honeymoon periods full of kisses, hugs and beautiful words wont always exist forever... thats a relationship... now... to stir this image up think about this... you love the person you believe it, u wana believe it but you find someone else making a remarkable impact in your world from the outside with the least amount to no amount of effort at all.. who are these people you reckon? instead of the otheR getting onto your nerves you head into the extreme zone of questioning the very foundations and fundamentals of your relo. you start to consider how in fact, the integrity of your relo is completely shaken up... and if its by a third party, then they are probably a very special and controversial person... kisses, hugs and beautiful words dont matter in the long run, thas all physical and tangible (to a certain degree), at the end of the day the person making their impact in you world without trying is the one thatll make you weak at the knees and whilst taking your breath away. and for those of you underestimating my train of thought. i am certainly not talking about that cliche situation where say... a random fan of brad pitt meets brad pitt, im talking about a situation where two extremely close friends have gotten to know and admire each other as the people they are whilst sharing a spark between them the whole entire time from the moment they met ... like i said at the start of this post, this blog isnt so cliche as many would think of it to be, so givus some credit u havent already
You Was Looking For Your Friends
What You Found
Is A Partner With Potential
what the hell can i say for this, you look for a friend and instead come across someone who poses that potential greatness in terms of partnership with you. potential for something great.
"fuck controversy".. yet again...
"when you see a potential for this, chase pursue and fight! and cut out all of the other crap"
one of the greatest things ive learnt in recent times about myself and what will decide what actions i should carry out is simple...... deciding whether or not something is worth fighting for. unfortunately when that something is in the form of a hUman, it gets tricky coz you will BOTH have to want to fight for each other no matter how easy or difficult the situation is... whether its worth it. worth enough to be fought for. id deeply admire those type of people who realise and fight for something so i shall take it upon myself for future reference.
"fuck controversy".. yet again...
"when you see a potential for this, chase pursue and fight! and cut out all of the other crap"
one of the greatest things ive learnt in recent times about myself and what will decide what actions i should carry out is simple...... deciding whether or not something is worth fighting for. unfortunately when that something is in the form of a hUman, it gets tricky coz you will BOTH have to want to fight for each other no matter how easy or difficult the situation is... whether its worth it. worth enough to be fought for. id deeply admire those type of people who realise and fight for something so i shall take it upon myself for future reference.
And No, I Know I Ain't Perfect
But I'm Around
Girl Time And Patience Is Essential
Baby Realize...
Thick And Thin,
The Bad Outweighs The Good Sometimes
That Doesn't Mean We're 'spose To Give It Up
My Problems Are Yours,And Yours Are Mine
for any problem that ever surfaces in a relo between two people the above few lines when used and meant could mean a perfect relo in terms of being always able to work through issues..... whats not perfect is... when you dont believe the other gives a shit about what theyve done, or worse yet, who doesnt show enough care to naturally realise there is something wrong in the first place, it takes two to tango, takes two to realise and solve. when one needs reminding or confronting then i wish all of you people luck if you decide to stick with em coz i believe thats a start of a permanent crack in the relo that can only be magnified in due course... but hey hey?!?!?! guesS what!!!!!!!
... i would really like to be proven wrong
... i would really like to be proven wrong
(...OK LADIES AND GENTS TAKE A 5 MIN BREATHER, THIS POST STILL HAS AWHILE TO GO ...)
continuing......
countless minds believe that good guys always come last. im one of those individual minds... and thank goodness ive got my own to form my own opinions and analytical thinking with.. we have too many sheep in this world.. nehow im digressing from the point.
with the first half of this post i talked about a couple tryna make it work. that song by neyo talks about problems a couple of people might be having, worries that need to be solved and how the guy within the story of lyrics believed that they could "make it work".. its a sweet song, got some funky tunes to back it up, but that song barely scraps the surface of the potential problems and on goings that happen behind the scenes. Different situations, different people, different potentials, values and beliefs, thats where i absolutely magnified a whole bunch of very likely things that people will most commonly go through in reloz, you can almost call this post "Food For Thought Part 2".. if u havent read my other post than forget it, u wont get wat i just said..
with the first half of this post i talked about a couple tryna make it work. that song by neyo talks about problems a couple of people might be having, worries that need to be solved and how the guy within the story of lyrics believed that they could "make it work".. its a sweet song, got some funky tunes to back it up, but that song barely scraps the surface of the potential problems and on goings that happen behind the scenes. Different situations, different people, different potentials, values and beliefs, thats where i absolutely magnified a whole bunch of very likely things that people will most commonly go through in reloz, you can almost call this post "Food For Thought Part 2".. if u havent read my other post than forget it, u wont get wat i just said..
Breaking up with someone to be with another person. sounds wrong hey?.... shoving a knife into a toaster to take a piece of toasted bread out is the same thing. my point if u havent gotten it already is that every situation that may appear to be a common happenin at front on value is almost always different once u get down to the nitty gritty details of motives and external influences. People break up and hookup with another for essentially the same reasons but the thought process, influences, values and beliefs almost always differ amongst people... never judge a book by its cover, if u have problems talk or ask it directly to them.... anyway... what happens when someone is in a relationship theyve dedicated themselves to... wateva the reasonS... but they fall for someone they know they could have something so much greater with... BUT they already have something thats been established over a period of time with the person they currently have... should they risk to pursue that potential for greatness they can see? or should they stick to making work what they already have? think about it like this, you buy urself a cheap new guitar, and u self teach uRself how to play it, from basics all the way to advanced you establish some sort of connection with it, in this guitar case it may of a nostalgic and sentimental one. One day you get given the choice to trade that very guitar into a shop in exchange for another one that looks better, is of great quality.... but u have no history with this... unlike ur old guitar... the new one you just recieved you have no history with, you have to start all over again from the very begin to establish that connection..... thas has a potential to be greater then ur previous just because you can do so much more with....taking into account whats more important to u is the connection u have with the guitar, do you exchange it or not ? something thatll help me explain this is by our friend mario with his song crying out for me. just like with make it work ill try and explain whats still going thru my mind with the aid of this awesome song but catch 22 song.
Mario - Crying Out For Me
It's like you caught up in a maze
You keep on going in circles girl you're trying to find your way out
But its time I put on my cape and
Put that s on my chest
Girl I wanna come and save you
But I'm stick in the middle of seeing you hurt
I know when you love him
And you wanna make it up
And I can't help but think that I known you first
It's getting louder
Can't ignore any longer
.......................................................... i feel helpless for those that do not want to be helped, even if they do wana be helped they are too selfless to act upon it for themselves, these people deserve so much more. Deserving to be admired for the people they are... from the history they came from, to the person they grew into, to the people they will become.....
I can hear your heart crying out for me (crying out for me)
I can hear your heart crying out for me
(And it keeps on saying) Come on in, come on in come on in and save
(And it keeps on saying) Come on in, come on in come on in and save
(I can baby) I can hear your heart crying out for me
Baby, I should've never caught feeling
But baby having late night conversion on your sofa
You telling me how he played you out over and over, over and over
But I'm stuck in the middle of seeing you hurt
I know when you love him
And you wanna make it work
And I can't help but think that I knew you first
It's getting louder
Girl I can't ignore it no more baby
I can hear your heart crying out for me (crying out for me)
I can hear your heart (oh yeah) crying out for me
(And girl it's saying)
Come on in, come on in, come on in and save (Save me)
Come on in, come on in, come on in and save (oh oh oh)
I can hear your heart (I can hear it yeah) crying out for me
Girl it's crying it's crying
I don't wanna confuse things (no)
But I just can't keep lying to myself
When you're holding me (when you're holding me)
I can feel your pain oh baby let me be your dream
I'm the answer come see me (see me)
And u don't have to cry no more (u don't have to cry)
Girl I can hear your heart baby
I can hear your heart
Girl it's crying
Won't you listen to your heart, baby
I can hear your heart crying out for me (girl it's crying out for me)
I can hear your heart crying out for me
(And it's saying)
Come on in, come on in, come on in and save (Save me)
Come on in, come on in, come on in and save
I can hear your heart crying out for me
Girl I can hear, hear it cry for me, for me, for me, for me
Ladies wave your hands in the air
Ladies wave your hands in the air
Oh baby
It's crying for me
It's crying for me for me
You keep on going in circles girl you're trying to find your way out
But its time I put on my cape and
Put that s on my chest
Girl I wanna come and save you
To all the fellaz that have survived this post so far, have u ever been put in the position that this first verse describes, unfortunately it happens alot more common then we would like ay? although chances are the situation will always be like that... note that if ever u come across someone like that in the verse, fight for em, not bcoz of u but because they also deserve to be fought for. a massive fight for these girls is what they may truly need deep down even if they dont realise it....
But I'm stick in the middle of seeing you hurt
I know when you love him
And you wanna make it up
And I can't help but think that I known you first
It's getting louder
Can't ignore any longer
.......................................................... i feel helpless for those that do not want to be helped, even if they do wana be helped they are too selfless to act upon it for themselves, these people deserve so much more. Deserving to be admired for the people they are... from the history they came from, to the person they grew into, to the people they will become.....
I can hear your heart crying out for me (crying out for me)
I can hear your heart crying out for me
(And it keeps on saying) Come on in, come on in come on in and save
(And it keeps on saying) Come on in, come on in come on in and save
(I can baby) I can hear your heart crying out for me
Baby, I should've never caught feeling
But baby having late night conversion on your sofa
You telling me how he played you out over and over, over and over
But I'm stuck in the middle of seeing you hurt
I know when you love him
And you wanna make it work
And I can't help but think that I knew you first
It's getting louder
Girl I can't ignore it no more baby
I can hear your heart crying out for me (crying out for me)
I can hear your heart (oh yeah) crying out for me
(And girl it's saying)
Come on in, come on in, come on in and save (Save me)
Come on in, come on in, come on in and save (oh oh oh)
I can hear your heart (I can hear it yeah) crying out for me
Girl it's crying it's crying
I don't wanna confuse things (no)
But I just can't keep lying to myself
When you're holding me (when you're holding me)
I can feel your pain oh baby let me be your dream
I'm the answer come see me (see me)
And u don't have to cry no more (u don't have to cry)
Girl I can hear your heart baby
I can hear your heart
Girl it's crying
Won't you listen to your heart, baby
I can hear your heart crying out for me (girl it's crying out for me)
I can hear your heart crying out for me
(And it's saying)
Come on in, come on in, come on in and save (Save me)
Come on in, come on in, come on in and save
I can hear your heart crying out for me
Girl I can hear, hear it cry for me, for me, for me, for me
Ladies wave your hands in the air
Ladies wave your hands in the air
Oh baby
It's crying for me
It's crying for me for me
i didnt write much for the song.. it describes perfectly the type of situation a guy in that position will experience when they see a girl tryna 'make it work'. no need for me to elaborate.... that and i doubt many people would have mAde it this far down the page already.... at the end of the day i guess this is just me venting and u know? i think its finally started to work... even if there is so much more i wana say
crying out for me.... its what it is....if you were to trust me everything will be fine
>>controversy, good, bad, greatness, weakness, whats right, whats wrong, what you want, what you need, staying true to yourself, voicing out raw thoughts, trusting that third party, knowing them, connection & chemistry... unbelievable connection & chemistry....hope, sacrifice, persistence, chances, fights, impact, importance, influence, friendship, foundation, greatness, potential, different worlds, unexplained actions, breaks, re established contact, realisations, pillars, injokes, hours of conversation, market city, hyde park, fountains, strolls inda park, circular quay, harbour bridge, the rocks, ring, daGgy, snowman, pumphouse, gossip, captured moments, non-captured moments, impulsed based reactions, seduction, passion, loyalty, respect, understanding, patience, friends, family, family parties, guitars, chasing, introductions, effort, frustration, helplessness, catch 22, situations, phone calls, passes a month, pets, city, hanging out, late night text.... everynight, holding back, hug, warmth, rain, music, dance and finally...happiness
what exactly do u have with him... i really don't know or understand, and pardon my naivety... but realise that all of the above we built together in a matter of a few months..... all whilst trying to heavily hold back... so now i gota tone some of this down a little and to let go of the rest.... this is quiet a list and its gona be a touGhie to sort out... and for the record if there was any glimmer of hope in you to do something for us to happen... you should of done something about it, to make it work the way you were crying for me deep inside. i know ill look back and regret.... regret how i didnt fight hard enough for you and i to end up the way i believe it should have been... so even though this post is all about "you"...realise now if you cant fight the way i have for a potential us than this is the end of our story
but dont worry ill still be around the place as promised
to ya'll out there dont bother asking me about this post... make comments yeah but chances are i wont talk about what i said in here... and i mean it for everYone... though... "you" are the exception as it always has been.
its currently 5.00am
the sun is about rise....
gotta love these venting sessions,
C
>>controversy, good, bad, greatness, weakness, whats right, whats wrong, what you want, what you need, staying true to yourself, voicing out raw thoughts, trusting that third party, knowing them, connection & chemistry... unbelievable connection & chemistry....hope, sacrifice, persistence, chances, fights, impact, importance, influence, friendship, foundation, greatness, potential, different worlds, unexplained actions, breaks, re established contact, realisations, pillars, injokes, hours of conversation, market city, hyde park, fountains, strolls inda park, circular quay, harbour bridge, the rocks, ring, daGgy, snowman, pumphouse, gossip, captured moments, non-captured moments, impulsed based reactions, seduction, passion, loyalty, respect, understanding, patience, friends, family, family parties, guitars, chasing, introductions, effort, frustration, helplessness, catch 22, situations, phone calls, passes a month, pets, city, hanging out, late night text.... everynight, holding back, hug, warmth, rain, music, dance and finally...happiness
what exactly do u have with him... i really don't know or understand, and pardon my naivety... but realise that all of the above we built together in a matter of a few months..... all whilst trying to heavily hold back... so now i gota tone some of this down a little and to let go of the rest.... this is quiet a list and its gona be a touGhie to sort out... and for the record if there was any glimmer of hope in you to do something for us to happen... you should of done something about it, to make it work the way you were crying for me deep inside. i know ill look back and regret.... regret how i didnt fight hard enough for you and i to end up the way i believe it should have been... so even though this post is all about "you"...realise now if you cant fight the way i have for a potential us than this is the end of our story
but dont worry ill still be around the place as promised
to ya'll out there dont bother asking me about this post... make comments yeah but chances are i wont talk about what i said in here... and i mean it for everYone... though... "you" are the exception as it always has been.
its currently 5.00am
the sun is about rise....
gotta love these venting sessions,
C
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